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Attitude is Everything

I deeply believe that we create our lives with our everyday thoughts.
But this is not an instant process. The constant background thoughts we have going on, act as a filter on the passionate wishes we use to try to change our future. So if you have a passionate desire to be healthy, but many daily thoughts that notice your conditions of sickness and feel hopeless about it, then you create conflict in your reality.

That's when everything seems stuck. It's not really stuck but we are creating the same reality over again because the blueprint is skewed.

When I get impatient with some part of my reality not changing as fast as I would like, I think about all the negative thoughts that flit across my mind during the day. Then I'm glad that the results of my thought creation are not immediate after all. I think the lag time is our consciousness checking to find out how serious we are about our life creation.

This life philosophy is broadly labelled metaphysics and, if you have no experience with it, may sound a little strange. But read the whole page and see if you can open up to the freedom this way of thinking brings you, to change your life in the direction that feels best to you.

If you hold a thought with power, constancy and passion, then that reality will show up eventually. If you constantly contradict yourself with doubt and fear, then that is what will manifest. We aren't taught to think cleanly and clearly as children. We just muddle along, thinking first this, then that, and wonder why nothing outstanding is happening in our reality.

Think now for a moment about the future you envision for yourself as you get older. The mass mind in this culture has extremely negative thoughts about aging. You have to work extra hard to bring your possible bright future into reality. My vision of the future includes helping others, being strong and healthy, being of service to the Earth and then passing from this world very peacefully when I sense my time has come to do so.

You can imagine your own ideal future very easily for yourself, just like a daydream. See yourself in a beautiful setting walking forward in time and notice what you are doing and thinking. Then write down what you imagined and think of it once in a while, adding more sensory details. Pretty soon, it will be like that vacation you are planning for next summer. The more you think of it, the more pleasure you get out of it, before you even go there. My mother is one of those dreamers and anticipators who gets more out of looking forward to something than the actual event. I learned not to ever surprise her with trips or gifts because that took half her pleasure away.

I realized a while back that, when I hit 60, I took on some of the prevailing beliefs in this culture. Life after 60 was a downhill run to disease, incapacity and painful death. It's hard to avoid having some components of those beliefs seep into our minds. I actively changed my future vision and, now, I can honestly say, I wouldn't want to be any other age.

This is not like positive affirmations, although those are better than nothing. The problem with them is that I could say out loud, "I am healthy and wealthy". Then I could look and find there's nothing in my purse and I feel sick as a dog. Somehow that affects my belief in my self. I feel like a liar or a dummy. But with my vision of the future I can accept myself as I am in this moment, while acknowledging what lies at the end of my walking forward. Who knows when I will fully and completely transpose into that wealthy, healthy person? No one. But I'm on the road and if I remember that as often as possible then I make better choices during the day. A donut doesn't look too appealing when it's weighed against a glowing, radiant future. I'd rather take a walk instead.

You can change a poor attitude in a moment and, even if your outward reality takes a while to catch up, your inward reality will feel better right away. Some of the things that you can use to change your reality are music, gratitude, helping someone else, being in nature, dancing or moving vigorously, smiling, thinking about the best moments of your life, screaming, free-flowing writing, etc. etc. No-one else is responsible for your attitude but you, so if it happens to be less than joyful at any moment, don't look around for someone to blame, just change it. Think the happiest thought you can from where you are. If that sounds like Polyanna, I don't care, just do it.

Another important piece of creating a better future is to not ever believe your own negative self-talk. We can choose right now to believe everything our mind tells us that is supportive and to totally discredit everything it says that tears us down. That little voice that says you aren't good enough, you can't get it right, you don't deserve it, you messed up again.....just thank it for sharing and say "I'm on my way to a better future."
Would you hang out with a friend who didn't believe in you? That little voice comes from a part of your psyche that was imprinted when you were very young and it never grew up. It doesn't realize that you are a powerful being who can do anything she sets her mind to.

I found a good solution for more comfortable lifestyle change in Neuro-Linguistic Programming. It's called reframing. My mother is a good example. She believed that foaming bath products enriched her life. They meant luxury and pampering to her. It didn't matter how many times I told her that they were very bad for her dry skin, she acted like I was taking candy from a baby when I mentioned it. So we reframed it that bath salts made of sea salt, epsom salts and essential oils were even more of a luxury that would actually help her body heal while she was lying in the tub. She picked the scented oil she liked best and gradually weaned herself of the sodium laurel sulfide and other gunk in the bubbles.

Reframing is finding a different perspective on the topic. I reframed dairy products as the equivalent to white glue, clogging up my system. The image of clogged pipes actually serves me for a lot of the white flour, sugar stuff I used to love. It's a very appropriate image for most of us, since our inner tubing has had to take so many abuses over the years. Another useful image for me is the 'body as temple to the soul' image. I bring my higher self to my temple not my addictions. Whatever image works for you. Then there is always the question, "Would I rather have this donut or see my grandchildren grow up?"

I have some interesting listings in the resource section that can help you with your attitude if you need it. There is a definite technique for creating your own reality. I went to many transformational workshops in the 70's and worked on it consistently but I somehow forgot it when I got sick in my fifties. Now I am back on track to creating a wonderful future. The tools that are available are even better now.

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